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“Dad, Tommy just threw mash potatoes on my head!”

This is definitely not what your average supper table looks like.

With all the stuff that we do on an average day; practices, recitals, homework; it’s a miracle we set down together at all.  But when we do what happens?  We get focused on getting the kids to eat their brussel sprouts or drink their milk.

But what if we could use dinner time to connect with each other and have fun.  I recently bought “Family Time Fun Dinner Games” and have discovered that it is actually fun. The suggested games are easy and require little to no prep.  It makes our time at the table more enjoyable and we get to see the creative and humorous side of our kids we sometimes miss in the daily hustle and bustle of life.

My favorite is where we go through the alphabet and name animals starting with each letter.  The great thing about the game is you just pull out a card or two and you’ve got entertainment for the rest of supper.

You can find them @ Amazon and other places online.

How do you fight the stress of dinner time?

“What did you learn?” “Did you have fun?”

I can’t remember who said this at orange ’09, it may have been Perry Noble. But he said the two primary questions a parent asks after they pick their kid up from the children’s ministry environments are “what did you learn” and “did you have fun”. When he said this I thought, yeah, that’s true I do that. Last Sunday I heard a mom ask her daughter “what did you learn today” as soon as they exited the door. That really got me thinking. Perry (I think) also said usually the first question will be “did you have fun”.

I did not grow up in church. Yeah, my mom took me every once and awhile in middle school and early high school. But it definitely was not fun. We went to a Methodist church, and I don’t know if this is common practice in all Methodist churches, but they had “children’s church” for a few minutes in the front. Well it was made up of about 5 kids under 9 years old. I was 14 and my mom made me go up and set with them…really, do I need to say more. So I understand that we need to make it fun. It is easy to get wrapped up in just getting through the activities, since 252 has some great ones. And I have been there. I have learned over the last year, and it really hit hard after orange ’09, that the important part is building a relationally, rich environment that is fun.  Autumn Ward, from Mountain Lake Church and who also writes for 252, said that of course teaching the Bible stories are important, but we want the kids to know they have their own, personal Bible story. 

How are you building a relationally, rich children’s ministry?